All winners are not so perfect. They also have done mistakes in their life, but they learn to solve their mistake and got their success. You have obviously seen a good movie. Every scene and frame looks so perfectly framed and designed. But what do you think? Is that movie is a result of a single video shoot?
When looking for our own self-development we are often bombarded by slogans that claim to show us the ‘key to success’, or steps that can guarantee that we ‘win in life’, no matter what it is we want. But, can we be winners and, more importantly, should we strive to be winners?
Life is Tough for Winners too
From the moment you are born, taking your first breath, till the moment you die, taking your last. Life throws many obstacles, frustrations, and tragedies at us. And most of us feel powerless to prevent or avoid what is being thrown at us. It seems only natural and right to want to overcome these unpleasant events: to overcome them, to rid our lives of them, and to win.
When searching for the winning formula, we find many self-proclaimed experts who tell us that if we do as they have done we too, can be a successful winner like them. They claim that we only need a ‘key’ or a technique to acquire a winner’s mentality to rid ourselves of failure. And, for a fee, they’ll show us how!
Should We follow those Proclaimed Winners?
It’s awfully tempting, especially when we see the lifestyle that these people claim to have; the big house, the flash car, the smart clothes, and the big cheesy grin. For these people life seems to be an ordered, mapped out plan with success upon success, win after win. So, should we be striving to win everything, just like them? I think not.
When I look closely at one of these ‘winning gurus’, I can see that there is something about them that is missing. Sure, they have all the material possessions I don’t have. They have that look of confidence that I know I don’t have.
Life is easy for them, whereas I find it a real struggle at times. That big, assured grin can’t hide what is missing; their humanity. A human being will and must experience failure and loss. The first step in being a successful human being is to accept this.
Life can’t be planned and mapped out.
We can’t win everything we desire. We fool ourselves if we believe this, and we mislead others if we lecture it. “Life is chaotic”, “Life is unplanned”, and without rhyme or reason. There are uncountable times when we will lose. Being successful in life isn’t about winning all the time; it’s about loosing, and how we deal with our loss.
If you’re serious about “self-development” then forget about winning and concentrate on loosing. A loser can often be a more fulfilled and better person than someone who knows nothing but winning. You learn more about the human condition through loss than through winning.
The strongest, best people I have ever met have been the ones who have lost a great opportunity, and sometimes everything, but who have had the strength to accept their loss and still believed that life was something beautiful and worth living.